My dad called me after he went to synagogue this past Saturday (the day after the first Seder of Passover).
He said, “I must tell you what the rabbi said during his sermon today — Why do we do all of the rituals we do during the Seder — the blessing over the wine, the breaking of the Matzot, etc.? Why?
The most important reason is, so our children will ask questions. When they ask the questions, they learn. This is how we pass on our traditions.”
I watched my daughters’ faces as we sat at the table for Seder. The curiosity — that look of yearning hunger to know it all — the why, the how, the what for, the “I want to do that, too,” look.
Their curiosity is a product of my doing, my actions create the opportunity for them to learn.
When I lead, I set an example, in turn, they learn from my example (this can happen intentionally or unintentionally).
As a mom, a single mom, I have to be very careful. I have to remind myself all of the time –Whomever I involve myself with, whether that be a friend or a romantic partner, I must ask myself:
Is this what I want them to learn?
To strive for?
To think is acceptable for them?
Is this the love I want them to think is the love they deserve, too?
Just like the Seder, my daily actions are in naked sight, and even the actions I keep private, I ask:
Would I be confident doing this in front of my children?
Are my actions, right now, actions I would want them to emulate?
Of course, I’m human and I’ve acted in ways, even recently, that don’t align with what I know to be symbiotic with my principles.
However, there’s always an opportunity to learn from our actions, and do the opposite, or just get back on track, which I guess is a good lesson for them to learn, too. ~Rebecca