“What’s the benefit of marriage?” My friend asked me.
“Benefits. The benefit of marriage is the benefits,” I replied.
We were discussing the long overdue right to equality now granted to same sex couples in all fifty states. On Friday, June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled (5-4) in favor of Jim Obergefell, in the case of Obergefell et al. v. Hodges et al..
Jim Obergefell filed suit against the Director of the Ohio’s Department of Health after Obergefell was not permitted to put his name on his late husband, John Arthur’s death certificate.
Shortly after the ruling, the USA cyber nation exploded in hashtag, lovewins!
In my opinion, all love is equal and should be recognized, yet there is a much more practical reason for the nationwide legalization of same sex marriage — the benefits. It was the reason for the suit in the first place, not a fight for the validation of romantic, fairytale love between two men or two women.
Everyone deserves the right to love when love is needed most — in struggle, in strife, in times when the only person who will support us is the one who loves us the most, our partner.
My response to my friend was not jaded, it is true — The benefit of marriage is the benefits: The benefit to support our partner in their, or our time of need.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this, has love really won, yet?
Did you know there are only eleven states that recognize common law marriage? The states that do have some semblance of a statute, vary drastically on the level of acknowledgment and benefit allotment to couples who co-habitate.
Cohabitation is on the rise, and I think it’s about time it was recognized and validated by the government. Just because two people decide not to get married does not mean they don’t deserve the same rights as married couples.
Do they love each other any less than the couple who signs and dates a piece of paper? No. Therefore, I make my case: this fight isn’t over. Love has not won, yet. This is a good start, but there’s more work ahead.
Whether you’re straight, gay, married or co-habitating, we all deserve the right to benefit from our love, and we shouldn’t need paper to justify that right to love.
Love is our right to benefits. Let’s ring that freedom true, “with liberty and justice for all.” #tobecontinued ~Rebecca